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Why Being Inconvenienced is Key to Maintaining Good Friendships
Why inconvenience is important for friendships, how to ask better questions, and abundant cultivation.
Rise & Shine.
This is Man Morning - the newsletter for the successful, growth minded man who wants to start his day with purpose.
Today in 3 minutes or less, you’ll get:
📣 The secret to great friendships
🌱 Abundant cultivation
❓ Ask better questions
📣 THE SECRET TO GREAT FRIENDSHIPS
One of the keys to having strong friendships is a willingness to be occasionally inconvenienced.
While it may not be the most appealing idea to spend an hour in traffic to meet up with a friend, the laughter and good company that follows is worth it.
The same can be said for picking up a friend from the airport when Uber is an option.
Once he gets in your car, and the conversation picks up right where it left off, you know you made the right decision.
Lending a hand with a buddy's home renovation project may be the last thing you want to do with your Saturday morning.
But when he opens up about something extremely challenging he’s going through, you’re glad you were there.
You don’t build strong friendships from convenience.
You build them from effort.
This commitment leads to stronger bonds.
When you look back on life, you won’t remember the traffic, airport pickups, or cabinet hanging.
You’ll remember the experience of being with a friend.
This is how you build memories.
🌱 ABUNDANT CULTIVATION
"Without effort, you cannot be prosperous. Though the land be good, you cannot have an abundant crop without cultivation."
❓ASK BETTER QUESTIONS
A man is only as good as the questions he asks.
The better the questions, the better the life.
To improve your question asking skills, here are three things not to do:
1. Avoid leading questions.
Don't begin a question with "Don't you think..." This is putting your opinion in the question.
Instead ask: "What do you think?"
2. Avoid either/or questions.
Don’t ask, "Should we do X or Y?" This only provides two possible outcomes.
Instead ask: "I'm thinking about doing (X). How do you think we should approach it?"
This creates space for ideas you may not have considered.
3. Avoid asking, “Why?”
If you want to make someone get defensive and immediately feel pressured, ask them "Why?" they did something.
Instead of asking: "Why did you do it like that?" say, "I see you chose to do it with X approach. Can you share how you made that decision?"
BONUS:
“Never ask a question unless the answer makes a difference.” – Proverb.
That's it for today.
Man Morning Team (MMT)
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