Break Free from Your Invisible Barrier

Understanding and Overcoming the Upper Limit Problem

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  • 🌡️ Break the Invisible Barrier

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🌡️ Break the Invisible Barrier

A man works hard over a few months to get in great physical shape.

He’s committed and disciplined.

His workouts and diet are dialed in.

He can see and feel the amazing differences in his body and mind.

Then, as he approaches his peak, he decides it’s ok to take his foot off the pedal.

He cuts himself some slack and begins to cut corners.

He stops working out as often and isn’t as strict about his diet.

Before he knows it, he’s back where he started or even worse.

What happened?

The short story - he couldn’t handle his new level of looking and feeling so damn good.

It was unfamiliar territory.

So, he lowered his “temperature” and went back to his status quo.

What he experienced is called the Upper Limit Problem.

Can you relate to this story?

Ever felt you've hit an invisible wall on your journey towards success?

In his groundbreaking book, "The Big Leap," Dr. Gay Hendricks calls this the Upper Limit Problem (ULP).

The ULP is like an internal thermostat setting for how much success, love, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy.

It's a subtle, yet powerful self-imposed limitation that keeps you from achieving your full potential.

It happens when you're on the verge of hitting higher levels of success, happiness, wealth, or health than your subconscious says is acceptable.

When we exceed our preset settings, we often do something to self-sabotage.

This self-sabotage knocks us back into the old, familiar zone where we feel comfortable.

Sounds strange, right?

Let's break it down how it works and what to do about it.

Recognize The Upper Limit Problem

ULP shows up as sudden arguments in a usually peaceful relationship.

Unexpected health issues during a career breakthrough.

Or anxiety when things are going well.

It's that voice that whispers, "This is too good to be true," during a joyful moment.

It's the fear that shows up when you're about to exceed past accomplishments.

Digging Deeper: The Root Causes

The ULP is rooted in fear and a sense of unworthiness.

It stems from old beliefs instilled in us during our formative years.

Many men unconsciously hold onto the idea that they don't deserve success or happiness beyond a certain level.

Or they wrongly believe that excessive optimism will invite doom.

Impact of The Upper Limit Problem

Unchecked, the ULP can be detrimental, hindering progress in both your personal and professional life.

It can disrupt relationships, hinder career growth, and poison health and happiness.

ULP acts like an anchor, preventing you from sailing towards your true potential - what you really want.

Overcoming The Upper Limit Problem

Awareness is the first step towards overcoming the ULP.

You need to acknowledge its presence and understand its roots.

It's crucial to identify and challenge the beliefs leading to self-sabotage.

Ask yourself: "Why do I believe I don't deserve this?"

Reflect and get curious about where these beliefs come from.

Techniques to Overcome The Upper Limit Problem

How to attack ULPs:

Confront Fears: Fear is at the heart of the ULP. Face your fears. Every time you do, you expand your comfort zone, raising your upper limit.

Community: Surround yourself with a positive community of men who make you better and help you challenge your ULPs.

Dream Bigger: Set bigger goals that push beyond your comfort zone. This will gradually raise your upper limit.

Mindfulness: Recognize when you're hitting your upper limit. Mindfulness encourages living in the present moment and embracing positivity without fear.

Work With A Pro: Don’t tackle ULPs alone. Invest in working with a coach who can support you in getting past the ULP and making sure that you’re playing to win.

Addressing ULPs isn't an overnight process.

It requires honesty, patience, persistence, and a whole lot of self-love.

However, the journey, while challenging, promises a great destination – a life where you're not constrained by invisible ceilings.

Remember, your success and happiness hurts no one.

Don't let the Upper Limit Problem convince you otherwise.

Recognize it, challenge it, and rise above it.

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Recommended Reading: The Big Leap

⭕ Change Your Circle

Who you hang out with determines what you dream about and what you collide with. And the collisions and the dreams lead to your changes. And the changes are what you become. Change the outcome by changing your circle.

Seth Godin

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⚡ Man Morning Reflection

A quote for you to consider:

“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”

-Blaise Pascal

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